Let's get real: monograms are, in fact, a mandatory element of southern style. They make a statement. They make your statement. Monograms put a personal spin on everything from tote bags and cufflinks to silverware and pocket squares. But monograms can also be tricky. Mastering the order ("What goes in the middle?") can be complicated and downright confusing. But knowing how to present them is key to telling your personal story. And once you get it right, the options are endless on how to make them look great—and personalized for you. There are many different shapes, sizes, and weights—plus many color options.
For example, a single woman with a double name will have a monogram that looks incredibly different than a single woman without a formal middle name. What's the proper order? Should everything be an upper-case letter? Well I'm here to help set the record straight with this guide of all things monogram etiquette.
Individual Monograms
Three Letter Monograms
For women, a three letter monogram is styled with the last initial placed large in the center, and the first and middle (or maiden) initials on either side, slightly smaller. For men, the initials are placed in order (first, middle, last) all the same size.
Two Letter Monograms
For an individual monogram, this style is used to represent the first and last initials. This style of monogram is also popular for double names.
Single Letter Monograms
Single letter monograms can be used to represent a first name, last name, or a favored nickname. These types of initials can be very basic or elegant and swirly depending on preference.
Couple Monograms
Three Letter Monograms
This traditional style of monogram is simple and timeless. The bride's first initial comes first, followed by the married last initial, and then the husband's first initial.
Two Letter Monograms
A style quickly rising in popularity, a two letter monogram can be used to represent the joint first initials of a couple. This style is also particualy great for a couples with hyphenated or different last names.
Single Letter Monograms
When in doubt, a single initial is the perfect way to go. Used to represent a joint last name, these types of initials can be very basic or elegant and swirly depending on personal preference.
Monograms for Babies & Children
Boys Monograms
For little boys under the age of two, monograms can be done in any style you wish. However, 2 and up is traditionally where the switch to a first, middle, last monogram layout occurs.
Girls Monograms
Monogram Ettiquette for little girls is the same as for adult women. However the designs tend to be more cutesy & curly.
Motif Monograms
A popular style for monogramming kids clothing. Names or monograms can be placed with a motif design to add a bit personalization to seasonal or themed apparel.